Don't Say This To A Pregnant Woman!

Some people are so insensitive to pregnant women, which is ridiculous as we are hormonal enough as it is! There are some comments that we just brush off, but some really really get on our nerves. 
Sorry if this post seems like a bit of a rant!
If you're pregnant, or recently had a child, i'm sure you'll agree with some of these.
If you know someone who is pregnant, just take it as some polite advice. :)
Some of these comments I have actually been told, some of which other people have been told & some, luckily I have just heard of. They are all just as annoying to hear.

"Are you sure you're not having twins?"
Some people have big baby bumps, and some people have tiny baby bumps.
I think I would know if I was having twins, don't you?

"Are you gaining enough weight?"
Similar to the previous comment. But telling a pregnant woman her baby bump is small, isn't a nice thing. It's probably just going to make her freak out about the growth of her baby. Just don't.

"You'll never sleep again!"
I have actually heard this one recently. I think it's one of the most annoying things to say.
It annoys me too when people say they are tired. Don't even go there.
Personally, I have a one year old, and I am exhaused as it is. Soon i'll have a newborn too, don't talk to me about sleeping. Ever.

"Was it planned?"
Does it matter? I'm telling you i'm pregnant, you're supposed to be happy! Don't interrogate me.

"You're going to have your hands full!"
My midwife actually told me this the other day, along with "How are you going to cope?". I burst into tears. Don't you dare tell a pregnant woman that she's going to have her hands full. Unless your offering to help. 

"You'll have a boy & a girl, you can stop then!"
Excuse me, but who are you to tell me that I should stop having children.

"You are breastfeeding right?"
Now I do actually breastfeed. But I still don't think breastfeeding should be forced on anyone. It's not anyone elses business how you are planning on feeding your baby. The truth is, the way a mother chooses to feed her child is a very personal decision, and only she knows what is best for her and her baby.
"You shouldn't wear that, being so pregnant."
I don't understand why people are so judgemental about women showing off their bumps, because they are judgemental, trust me. 

"You are so hormonal!"
A pregnant woman's hormones are all over the place. Don't remind her, or she may start hysterically crying. Please. Just don't. Trust me.

"My labour was so quick"
So? Do you really think that's helpful information to share with me right now?
Just cause your labour was beautiful & fast, doesn't mean anyone will be as lucky as you.
I may be in labour for days, and if so, because you made this comment, I get to punch you in the face. Mmkay? :)

Do you agree with these comments?
Have you ever been told anything that really irritated you?

2 comments

Helena Ashworth said...

Sadly some of those sound familiar to me.

Sarah Humphreys said...

I agree with most of these, I think people should just not say anything at all and smile and ask how you are feeling. The comment that annoyed me the most was when I was expecting baby number 3, we already had 2 girls and constantly got 'oh what are you going to do if you get another girl' and 'are you going to keep going until you get a boy', truth was I didn't care as long as the baby was healthy and no we are stopping at 3. (it was a boy though!) Thank you for linking to #maternitymondays