Losing Yourself to Motherhood

A month or so after my little girlie was born, 
and I was beginning to adjust to life as a mother,
 I began thinking..
'When will I feel like me again'?

Going for days not getting dressed, barely having enough time to shower let alone put on make up, cook meals or go out. It seems like you'll never find yourself again, 
you'll never get back to who you once were. 
The one thing no one tells you when you have a baby, is you will feel like you'll have no idea if what you are doing is right. 'Is this what I should be doing? Is this normal?' 

The early days are draining, exhausting, you have no time for yourself, and you are so distracted you don't really even have the time to 
think about the fact you don't have the time for yourself! 
Then gradually you start getting back into a routine, baby sleeps and wakes at regular times (hopefully), so you can plan your day around that. You know when you can have a shower, when you have 5-10 minutes to look presentable and after a while you even have your evenings back. 

This all happened to me, and it absolutely happened again 
the second time around.
It hit me a little while back, that I am myself again. I am me. 
Just not the same me I used to be. 

In all honesty, you will never be the old 'you' again. 
When you become a mother, you will lose part of yourself, and I can guarantee you will not be able to do some of the things you used to do. 

You will never be the Old You again. 

And that is awesome
Becoming a mother transforms you.
The experience will completely change you in ways you could never imagine, 
ways no-one could ever describe to you. 
You will feel wonderful, powerful, magical.


This is the New You.
And you are perfect.

12 comments

Louise said...

A beautiful post and so very true - you never do go back to the old you after becoming a mother but nor do you really want to (even though there are times when you long for a little more 'me' time!) I love the way you describe the new you as wonderful, powerful and magical

Mum Reinvented said...

So true. I've spent a long time trying to rediscover the 'old me' but she's gone and I don't want to go back to who I was before kids, or even who I was after I had my first child. I am the me I am now and that's not gonna change.

Beautwins B said...

Sarah, this is beautiful and rings true for me and no doubt will do for so many mums out there. I love this and thank you for sharing and linking up this lovely post with us at #SundayStars xxx

Sarah Howe said...

This is a lovely post and very true! It's a blur at first and I think I wAs 3 weeks until I really felt better and actually properly started bonding with my little one! It was when I was left alone for the first time. Getting a routine is fab tho. Xxx #sundaystars

Mrs H said...

What a lovely and beautifully written post. I can completely identify with all of this. I have changed so much since becoming a mother and I love that. Little Miss H has made me a better person in every way. Thanks for linking up to #SundaysStars. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

Fionnuala said...

Very true Sarah. I feel the same.
#twinklytuesday

Natalie Mudd said...

Lovely post and so true. I spent ages wanting to feel like the old me again and then suddenly everything slotted into place and I felt like a better version of the old me. Love that quote x #ShareItSunday

Eat.Love.Live said...

This is so true. You put it so well. For me, at about the 7th month mark of being a mummy I had a moment where things just clicked back into place. It's what makes me so terrified about thinking of number 2! X #twinkkytuesday

Oh so amelia said...

So true! I felt like this too and then you slowly get out of it and start feeling like yourself again. I think it took less time the second time round as I just had to get on with it and actually leave the house for school runs #shareitsunday x

Samantha P said...

I think you're right - it took me a while to accept this but being a bit of an 'older' mum worked in two ways, in one way, I'd had so much more time being just me - the way I was - that is was harder to come to terms with the loss of what went before, but in another way it is easy to forget that I was actually ready for this change - I couldn't go back, wouldn't want to. Thanks for linking up to this week's #thetruthabout X

Lucy Melissa Smith said...

Another beautiful post Sarah, this is absolutely true and something we could all do with reminding ourselves sometimes I think :)
Lucy
-x-

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Ashley C said...

Beautifully written. Thank you so much for sharing!